Monthly Archives: May 2017

“Mixed” Dating: What it was and What it Is A Mixed Drink was Far More Acceptable! When we think about ‘˜mixed’ dating or a ‘˜mixed’ marriage, we might each be thinking about different things. The ‘˜mix’ usually is not a reference to any one set of specifics. It is, more commonly, a way of characterizing a relationship with someone who is different from yourself in some way deemed consequential by someone — or by the family, neighbors, community or larger society in general. When I was young, if a Jewish boy dated (or, heaven forbid) married a non-Jewish girl, this was called a ‘mixed’ relationship or marriage. Among the Christian … Continue reading →

Relationships, Dating and the Theory of Systems Taking a Systemic Approach to Dating Is in the Best Interest of Society Everywhere we look in the world we see systems – they are used in just about every sphere of life. They order our universe; run our country; supply our electricity; produce our public transport system; manage our airports; supply our supermarkets; run our schools etc. We might not think these systems work well but without them, life would be chaos. So why don’t we use a systematic approach to dating, relationships and marriage? It is one of the most important areas of our lives and the decision on who to … Continue reading →

Dating 101: Know What Your Deal Breakers Are and How to Spot Them When you’re single, and hanging out with other singles all the time, there’s a lot of talk about what you want in that future partner. We all want to meet and date someone who is kind, attractive, sensitive, caring, smart, etc. Who doesn’t want these things in a partner? What’s more important is to know your deal breakers. How much thought have you given to the qualities you absolutely won’t live with, no matter the good? See, the positives you’re looking for are pretty easy to observe in the beginning of a dating relationship. It’s safe to … Continue reading →

Dating Over 50: What I Have Learned in the Last Three Years I was divorced almost 4 years ago and was suddenly back on the dating scene. Now at just over 50 at the time I was in a new world. Internet dating sites! OK this should be easy. Not on your life. It used to be you went to social functions like church or the bars or dances to meet women. Well I grew out of the bar scene a long time ago, don’t have much connection with the churches and bands no matter where they play are still too loud to talk to anyone. Now it is much … Continue reading →