You only have one chance to make a first impression. This is rather a well known cliché, but most of us don’t give much thought to it. Of course in retrospect it is important and we all form an impression of someone at least subconsciously in the first few seconds of meeting them. First impressions are extremely important whether we like it or not. She may find you irresistible and fall in love with you once she gets to know the real you, but if you don’t grab her attention right at the start both of you will never know what could have been.
Your online profile is important. It is human nature to want to get your profile done and up there so hundreds of eligible women will be contacting you in the next minute, but you need to take your time and do it properly. We are talking about the rest of your life here so some extra time spent now will be well worth it and insignificant in the scheme of things. It’s the rest of your life and future happiness that is at stake here.
Most online dating sites and foreign dating sites all require the same basic information in one form or another, so those bits are easy. Height, weight, hair colour, eye colour, age, age desired etc. and are usually just drop down pre-selections but the tricky bit comes when you need to use words to describe yourself or what you want in a partner. We would suggest taking a look and seeing what is required on the particular site and writing a piece to suit. Maybe this involves starting your profile and finishing it later, but some will not allow that, so maybe take a look and see what you need and then come back and fill it in after you have written what is required in Word or something with a spell checker to make sure you have no mistakes. You can always have something pre-prepared and just tailor it to suit the particular site.
Writing a great profile can be a little tricky as with your potential partner, English will be her second language so you need to keep it fairly plain and simple. She may be using an online translator to read it or her English reading ability may well be rather basic. Keep it quite simple but well thought out. Shorter sentences are better.
Take a look at some other profiles and you will soon see what to do and what not to do. Don’t assume that the first few you look at is the right way to do it, but it will give you an idea of what to put in there and what others are doing. Again, do not assume that what they have in their profile is working for them.
You don’t want to make it too long, but longer than what most have in theirs will attract attention and show that you are serious and genuine. Use paragraphs and line spacing if it allows (some dating sites don’t allow much control, if any, over the formatting). Above all don’t have it too short. It makes you look desperate and that any woman will do for you.
Describe yourself, what you like and what you admire and want in a future partner. Be positive, always positive. Don’t mention the usual subjects we have already covered as for real face-to-face dating. Don’t mention your bad points of course, such as you suffer from depression or you live with your mum, but never lie or exaggerate if asked further down the line.
So keep it simple, short sentences, clear and precise. Try and imagine something having to be translated. If an eight-year-old could easily understand what you have written, then that should be perfect.
Next week, tips on having a good profile photo.
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