Ok, its not rocket science but there are a few things you should know to be successful at online adult dating. First never give out your real details. Never your real name phone number and ladies especially never your address…well Duh!…. but some do. There are a lot of weirdos out there and you need to keep yourself safe.
I would suggest also that you use a new email address for all links to any adult dating site. You can easily get a new anonymous one at gmail, hotmail or the like. Make sure it doesn’t give a hint of your real name or is similar to your facebook profile or whatever… You get the idea. You would be surprised as to how much info someone can get by just googling your email address sometimes…
Make sure you know who you are really corresponding with before you give out any contact details. Many countries have cheap SIM cards. You can buy one for just $2 in Australia and New Zealand for instance, so you can give them this number and throw the card in your old phone you have lying about gathering dust and just turn it on to check for txts from time to time or leave it on if expecting them to call.
I can’t stress this enough. Do not give out any personal contact details until you are really sure….and maybe not even then. If you do decide to meet make it a public place, a very public place, and let someone know where you are going. Its also a good idea to have your friend give you a call 20 minutes in to your first meeting so you can use it as a good excuse to bail if not going well or just to check in that you are ok. You can do the same for them. If you don’t have any friends there are free apps that will call you at a preset time or in xx minutes so you always have the perfect excuse to do a runner. If things are going well you can just ignore that call or fake a short chat and carry one with your date.
Everybody lies on these adult dating sites. Don’t expect to meet the person you are expecting. Slim means average and average means over weight. Its like real estate- you have to read between the lines. Any photos will not be theirs or they will have been taken 10 years ago.
Wealth will also always be exaggerated as will the guys job. Chances are they are unemployed. Check the shoes and hands. Do they fit with what he said he does…. The car can tell a lot about the person but of course they may have just borrowed a friends for this first meeting.
Chances are they are married and just looking for a bit on the side. This is fine if that’s what you want and were expecting but not otherwise. Is there a slight no tanned mark where a wedding ring normally is? Does he keep playing with a non existent ring on that finger. Listen carefully to his answers and listen to what he doesn’t say rather than what he does. Don’t believe everything he says. If you suspect something let it slide and ask it in another way a bit later in the conversation. Watch the body language to see if they are hiding something. Go with your instincts. Women have a great 6th sense. Listen to it. If you ‘feel’ something is not quite right then it isn’t, trust me and move on quickly. Go with your first impression. It will be right.
Just enjoy the experience and move on to the next. Life is too short.
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