So let me guess… you are sitting by yourself somewhere alone.
You read posts like this all the time to try and help yourself find that special person. It’s a good thing that there are people like us who want to help you get over your ex, or find someone you care about and want to spend the rest of your life with or whatever else.
Before you even start trying to find someone else to date you need to know what your own hang-ups are and get over them. If you are still looking to get back with your ex while looking for someone new… don’t bother. If you still have insecurities about yourself that make you less confident then no man or woman is going to be willing to stay with a self loathing person. When someone looks for a relationship they want it to be a partnership. No one wants to be the person who is always getting the other person’s slack or making up for their partner’s mistakes. To find a relationship like this you need to find problems in your own life and fix them before moving on.
Another common reason someone is single or has failed relationships is because they go into a relationship without setting goals for where they want to be. Don’t be in a relationship for months when one person still thinks it casual, while the other is planning out the wedding’s seating arrangement. Make it clear as soon and after you start getting into the person where you see the relationship going. It is better to tell them now and have them run than wait and wait until you are so frustrated it ends anyways.
The next and probably the most important reason you are single is because you are unattractive. Hear us out, when we say unattractive we don’t necessarily mean bad looking or ugly. People who we think of as good looking, or fit put time and effort into these things. If you won’t try to look good for possible mates this can send signals everywhere even subconsciously to the other person. When you see someone who looks like they can’t even take care of themselves a natural reaction would be “If this person can’t take care of themselves, then how can they take care of me?” First impressions are important for a reason, you don’t want someone who you are interested in to discount you right away because they find your physical appearance undesirable. When you look good, mates are more inclined to approach you, and then find out what you are really like personality wise.
The point of that last paragraph was to explain that first impressions are important, because they qualify you to be someone’s mate. Being unattractive is not always about physical appearance (mostly is), but the vibe that you give out. You can be the most attractive person in the world (lucky you) but it will only get you so far. No one likes talking to a low self esteem brick with no personality. Even if you are naturally a shy person you still need to look friendly and approachable to other people.
Now take all this wonderful advice we have given you and actually make changes daily so you can be the person who you want to be. But before you do make sure you take a step back and look at where you want to be and the type of relationship if any will get you there.
Good luck and happy searching.
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