Today’s newbie mistakes on un- successful on-line adult dating.
We’ve all been there… well if you haven’t there is a better than 50/50 chance you will be…and soon- back in the dating scene that is. Many of us will not have been dating for many years and will have forgotten the rules. Many of the old rules still apply but many have changed with time. For instance its not always appropriate for the guy to pay for everything on the first date. You should offer, and at least twice, but woman these days like to be independent and expect to pay their way. Good for us you say…but don’t appear to be a cheapskate, even if you really are.
How to get started to get back in the market for finding a partner? By now you will know what you don’t want that’s for sure, but not really know what you actually want. Where is the best place to start? If you like drinking then the local bar of course is the best place to pickup women, but is this necessarily the type of women you really want? Fine for a one night stand or a bit of fun, but maybe not someone who you want to settle down with, live with and heaven forbid actually marry again maybe.
Online dating sites are the best non threatening way to ease into this without taking risks. No one even needs to know who you are and your real name till you want or even then if you don’t want. Start of by joining up for free on an online dating site and take a look around before you have to pay to contact any of these good looking women in your area. Join a large site, one with a heap of members as if you join a new or newer smaller site then you are going to be limited on matches. I would suggest friendfinder or the adult version adultfriendfinder…both of which can join for free here. They are the largest and seem to have been around about the longest so they know what they are doing. Sure some new sites might be flashier or whatever but you just want to meet the right woman after all and the place with the access to most in your area that it your criteria will help your chances considerably.
There is usually a minimum profile you need to enter to get started but you can always just type a little and say ‘I will fill in the rest soon’… Then you can take a look and see what other people are doing in their profiles and just do that. You will get a heap of ideas this way. Once again there are basic rules to follow. Don’t list your bad points, don’t be pessimistic and above all don’t appear desperate! Nothing will make a woman click off you quicker when she is checking you out to see if you are someone she might like to date or meet up with.
If you are after a long term relationship ultimately then don’t lie as you will get found out eventually. Better to just give your good points, avoid the bad and not so good. Maybe exaggerate a little but don’t go over board. If you are greying and going bald, then best to mention it…you really think she ain’t gonna notice? maybe use the term slightly balding or starting to go grey in places or whatever. Highlight your good points and be vague on the bad or don’t mention at all. Its hard to blow your own trumpet for most of us, but you can say something like ‘my friends say I have an amazing smile’ rather than ‘I have an amazing smile’… You get the idea, if you don’t then looking at other profiles will give you the idea.
More tomorrow. Keep tuned.
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